Sharing. What's mine is yours. Here, I'm not through with it, but since you want it, you can just take it from me. It's wrapped in the cloak of "morality" and "generosity", but what it does is teach "entitlement". I grew up in the age of this bullshit, had it shoved down my throat in school and Sunday school, but my folks fought hard to counter this indoctrination with "There is a line where generosity becomes compulsory and that's socialism." God, I love my folks. They taught me that what was mine, was mine, and it was up to me to decide if I wanted to share it and with whom. Simply because someone else wants it doesn't mean I have to give it to them. If I was done playing with something, if I just felt benevolent, I could choose to share my belongings. But the key word here is CHOOSE. When society compels you to give something of yours to someone else merely because they WANT IT NOW, well that's when you start teaching kids socialism. And a host of other undesirable qualities.
This mother explains in total perfection why this is a dangerous lesson to be teaching our kids. If you have young children, are grandparents, teachers, any contact at all with young minds, please read this.
I don't agree with the approach of the mothers in either of these situations. I think it does a child a great disservice to teach him that he can have something that someone else has, simply because he wants it. And I can understand the desire to give your children everything they want; we all have it. But it's a good lesson for you both to learn that this isn't always possible, and you shouldn't step all over other people to get these things.
Furthermore, this is not how things work in the real world. In your child's adult life, he's going to think he's owed everything he sees. This is already happening in the next generation. I read a fascinating article about how today's teens and 20-somethings are expecting raises and promotions at their jobs for reasons like, "I show up every day."
Read more at http://www.sunnyskyz.com/blog/365/This-Mom-Perfectly-Explains-Why-She-Does-Not-Teach-Her-Kids-To-Share#t9cDxwieOVBHjf01.99
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ReplyDeletelearn that this isn't always possible, and you shouldn't step all over other people to get these things.
ReplyDeleteFurthermore, this is not how things work in the real world. In your child's adult life, he's going to think he's owed everything he sees. This is already happening in the next generation
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i know my 17 year old nephew thinks everyone owes him everything - i also told him even tho im partially handicapped and still weak "i catch you stealing from me again i will break your hands"
he is bigger than me and stronger at this time and more than likely can whoop my ass but he will damn sure know i was there
what's mine is mine and i didn't beg for it i didn't steal it it wasn't handed to me on a silver platter - i worked for it
just a little rant
keep on keepin on angel
livin to ride
My daughter is 24 and is an only child. But we taught her that she had earn anything other than our unconditional love. Worked out just fine.
ReplyDeleteShe found out she likes tending bar while working at college. The place she's working at now isn't busy enough for her. (She moved to be with her current boyfriend, and left a place that was crazy busy most of the time. She would take over when others were slacking or wanted to skip their shift.)
I wish I'd been raised like this. I've been working to undo a lot of the social programming I got when I was a child.
ReplyDeleteSome of the scars run deep.