Thursday, January 12, 2017

I have a diagnosis!

The internet is my best means of "getting out and meeting people". In real life, I'm nothing like I am online. I have social anxiety. I'm the idiot that doesn't know what to say, and will respond to  a waiter who tells me to enjoy, "You too!" And then will spend the rest of the meal obsessing over the faux pas that no one else even noticed. But even online, sometimes it gets to be too much. Too many people, too many voices, too many demands on time and attention and feelings. And I get overwhelmed and have to withdraw for my own sanity. When I disappear and don't post, I'm recharging. I'm somewhere quiet, alone but for the company of a good book, phone turned off and laptop hidden under a pile of unfolded laundry. I am an Ambivert.


10 comments:

Brian said...

You just described me.

pdwalker said...

sounds eminently reasonable.

As for your public anxiety A very wise man once said to me, "Sometimes you just have to say, 'aw...the fuck with it'". I found those words to be very helpful at times. "Aw, the fuck with it", and many instances of stress were thusly avoided.

try it, you might even like it.

SiGraybeard said...

We already have another word for ambivert: "normal".

I think most people are mixes of both kinds. Introvert and extrovert are convenient terms for behaviors most people exhibit at some times.

Anonymous said...

We just call them "Texans"

Wildflower

Anonymous said...

I'm the same way.

-CM

Anonymous said...

Here you go...
https://www.indy100.com/article/study-finds-intelligent-people-need-more-time-alone-to-be-happy-7423191

Anonymous said...

Angel,
It has been nice getting to know you over the years. I think I can speak for many of your readers...we love you just the way you are. Thanks for being you.
Take care,
Craig R.
Spring TX

Anonymous said...

According to Myers-Briggs, you might be an INFJ or an INTP. Some folks feel right at home with those tests and their conclusions. Others, not so much.

As I get older, I need less and less social interaction (especially if it means sitting at a dinner table and everyone's smartphones come out to update Facebook/Twitter/Yelp/Instagram/etc.,) What's the point?

Better off with dogs and cats.

hiswiserangel said...

Every time I've taken it, I've been an ISFP-T.

Anonymous said...

whatever you is, we loves you...and please, "go to ground" as often and for as long as needed before you return to face your disturbed, but loyal following..


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